What is Stopping you From Getting Ahead Quickly and Not Being Overwhelmed

Have you been thinking that…

• You can’t get ahead quickly enough?
• You’re feeling overwhelmed? 
• You sometimes feel a bit lonely? ​

There may be something stopping you from getting ahead quickly and it’s making you feel overwhelmed.

This topic has been sparked by a multitude of areas that I have seen and worked in where I'm noticing how many women are doing it all themselves. This is not going to get into the topic of delegating -thought important. Instead, I want to highlight that if you're working by yourself in your business or in your career, you can start to feel like you're on an island all by yourself. 

COVID-19 only made this worse because many of us are working from home or if we're at the office, we're in a limited capacity. There's not a lot of people. Plus, there's restricted interaction where normally you'd be hanging out by the water cooler and having a chat or you would be having big board meetings or you'd be going to see clients and customers. 

For those entrepreneurs, you'd be at events, trainings, and masterminds. It came up again when I was brought in to speak at a conference for administrators. They talked about flying solo, and I gave them the image of a goose flying by itself. That's kind of a weird thing to see since you don’t normally see that in nature. More likely you see them flying in a V. 

The reason why they fly together in that V is because of synergy:

• You can cut through the air better. 
• They have a greater range of 71%. 
• They honk at each other for encouragement. 
• They change up the lead.
• And if one of them is sick, tired, or injured and has to go away from the flock, the other ones go with it. 
• If they fall out of V alignment, it motivates them to get back because they see how much easier it is to do it together. ​

There’s so much to learn from nature and it shows us how we really need to be. When I shared this at the conference, a lot of them said, “Yeah, I feel like I'm on an island all by myself.” 

Isn't that sad? With how connected we are in the world, with all the social media platforms, with phones, the internet, and email we feel alone. All these options we have, including Zoom and the podcasts that you're listening to. People feel like they're on an island by themselves.

Maybe you want to answer this question that I asked them, “What's stopping you from getting ahead quickly and not being overwhelmed or lonely?”

• Could it be having your own V formation? 
• Could it be being a part of a group that will support you and cheer you on?

You may think that you’re ok because…

• You’re part of an association 
• You have your family 
• You have a good group of friends

But how many of these people are truly invested in you in these ways?

• Help you reach your goals?
• Will they help to dust you off and pick you back up again? 
• Will they hold you accountable? 
• Will they tell you when you've got broccoli in your teeth, or in your business or in your career when you've really messed up?
• Will they give you the hard truth so that you can continue to uplevel and upgrade?
• Help you follow your dreams? 
• And celebrate you when you succeed?

If you don't have that, then it could be what's holding you back.

Many times with clients of mine who are running their own businesses or they're in a high-level position in a company, they come to me because they're missing that ability to brainstorm ideas with someone else. I often do that either in a one-on-one setting with them or I bring them into a group mastermind program like She's Goaled.

But it’s virtual and more impactful to have the consistency of the same people or the same person that's:

• supporting you 
• walking alongside you
• holding you accountable

That's what helps you get ahead. 

That's what ensures you’re not overwhelmed because they're going to help you break things down into smaller, more manageable steps.

They're going to help to really combat any of those limiting beliefs that pop up and rear their ugly heads and hold you back. ​

Being on an island all by yourself is lonely. When you're lonely, that can get you into depression or deflate your confidence. When you're feeling like you're all alone, motivation, focus and belief in yourself can disappear. 

You may think, “Wow, that's a lot of negative things that can happen. It won’t happen to me.” But it can slowly happen over time and you might not notice it. Like a bank of a river being slowly eroded away.

You might start feeling these things:

• “What is even wrong with me?” 
• “Why am I not as motivated as I used to be?” 
• “I don't feel like myself.” 
• “I'm more tired than usual.” 
• “Wow, it took me a lot longer to do that.”
• “I've been losing focus recently.”
• “Why did I miss that opportunity?” ​

Have any of those symptoms popped up for you?

• At night you're reaching for a little bit more wine than usual. 
• You find it hard to go to sleep because your mind is racing. 
• You binge-watch Netflix as just a way to escape.

If you're not surrounded by people who are providing support and camaraderie for you, then it's time to find those people. I encouraged the group of admins to have five people. Five people where they know they can call on them

• When they have a question 
• When they have a need 
• When they have some brainstorming they need to do 
• When they have a problem that they need another perspective on ​

If you don't have those five, today's the day to start. If you only have one or none, that's okay. Start by thinking about:

• What are the goals that you have? 
• What do you want to achieve? 

Then look to who can help you achieve that. I’ll speak the hard truth though…not everyone will be as committed as you and people can let you down.

But there is a solution. If you…

• Want a ready-made group
• Don’t want the pain of having to find people and connect with them
• Want a group where you can just plug in and get the support that you need
• Want a place where there's camaraderie
• Want a place where there's understanding and encouragement
• Want to more easily achieve your goals

Then I invite you to join the She’s Goaled Coaching Mastermind Program. The doors are open. We have a few spots in that program that are now available. 

This program has been called the speed course to reach your goals. What I've found is that the bonds that are made in this program between the different people are huge. Confidence increases and since everyone is following a proven process success is guaranteed.

I've seen some of the women in the program go from, ‘I don't know if I can do this” to a little bit of a badass, and their confidence has soared. Their self efficacy is cemented in. They are ready to take on new and bigger goals. 

I love how at the start of our meetings when I asked, “What's a success you've had recently?” I hear such amazing answers:

• One of the women had a goal of purchasing her RV in the next three years. She did it in 30 days. 
• Another woman was thinking no one would hire her then she was headhunted for a top executive position where she now can design how she wants to live her business life and her work life. 

There are so many great things that happen in this community. These women definitely don't feel like they're on islands by themselves. Nothing is stopping them from getting ahead quickly and they're not overwhelmed.

I encourage you to go to the following to choose which of the three packages is best for you. http://www.dianerolston.com/shes-goaled-coaching-mastermind.html

And when you reach your goals quickly you’ll be able to have more time freedom, more financial success and more of what you want most in life. 

Read my other blogs here:
​1. How to NOT be Tired, Busy, and Overwhelmed
​2. Stop Juggling everything! Tips to help you avoid overwhelm
​3. Is Your Business Taking Over Your Life?