Life is full of many surprises. When you feel surprised you can have a reaction that is positive or negative depending on how you view and it’s impact on you.
Can you think of when this would be the case?
- Your sister announces she will be getting married… to the wonderful boyfriend of 4 years or to the new guy at work.
- You find out a friend will have a baby… next year or next week
- You’re neighbor just left his business… because it went under or he sold it for 10 times what he put into it.
Now the feeling of a positive or a negative surprise is also linked to how well you can react to the surprise.
Would you feel ready for a surprise in your life?
I have felt this when I got my first speaking gig out of the blue. Also when a client ended group coaching to work 1:1 with me. When a couple of my mommy friends moved away and when my husband got a new job.
In any situation that is a surprise you might not know how to “be” or what to “do” in each one. So what do you do?
1. Figure it Out
Even if you feel like you can’t do what you are surprised with – figure it out! That speaking opportunity seems tough because you can’t get up in front of people, you can’t teach it because you won’t say the right thing, or you’ll blow that date because you won’t wear the right clothes. Don’t worry you have brains and you’re capable to figure it out!
When Adriel and I were dating in Ontario he said that he wanted to move to BC I was surprised and moving out here I didn’t know what to expect. We packed up his car, with no job to start at, no place to live and no friends or family here we figured it out. Any good opportunity or surprise also takes trust. Now we’re married with two kids, a house, he has a great job and I have a business, so it all worked out.
2. Design Processes
I didn’t know the processes that went along each of my surprises, but the cool thing is that like any situation once you’ve been in it you can learn from it. Did you somehow upsell a customer? Did you earn a referral? Did you work some magic? Then document what you did and create a system or process and replicate it!
3. Build Confidence
The benefit is that the more surprises you have the more confident you’ll become to accept a surprise that could be an opportunity or even a challenge.
I have a quote for you from Henry Ford,
“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his greatest surprises,
is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn't”
My goal for you is to surprise yourself in your ability.
Be open to surprises - If we are so focused on what we want and where we are going we may miss out on life’s surprises. Imagine how life would be, same old, boring. Think about how you can bring surprise into your life a little more by trying new foods, going to new places and be more spontaneous to take on new things and challenges.
What can you do today to surprise yourself? AND how can someone bring the gift of surprise into a friends or family member’s life?