Last week I spoke about knowing when change starts and the three ways it kicks off.
But I’ve been asked, “Diane, if you have start style #3 where you act and then figure out later it’s changed you. At what point do you know you have been changed?”
Here is the description of #3: We act
“Basically we just start doing something and that action causes a bigger change. We didn’t decide to cause the change and didn’t realize it was going to happen it just comes. This could show up in a positive or negative way.”
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This is an important question because without realizing the change has happened you miss out on two things:
1. You can’t reap the benefits of the change.
2. You be late to reset your course if you’re way off target.
Then how do you know when you’re actions are creating change?
There are a few signs – if you pay attention.
A. You feel uncomfortable: Yep you start to feel like something is off. This isn’t a bad thing! It’s just that you have left your comfort zone and what you’re doing isn’t automatic yet. This is normal for when change occurs. Embrace it. You’re learning and growing right now.
B. Others tell you: Yep they open their mouths and point out either how you’ve changed or changes that they’ve seen in what you’re doing. Not to worry though! It usually comes in the form of a compliment. Ask them follow-up questions to get clarity on what they see the change is, what you did and what the impacts are.
C. You get new problems: This one I have been working through this year. I was so annoyed with all issues I had to defuse and the fires I had to put out. That was until a friend said, “Oh you’ve reached a new level in your business and with each change brings new problems.” So if this has happened to you too then consider yourself lucky because it could be a sign you’ve had new success. Trust me changing your perspective does help to make it a little easier to deal with.
D. You give advice easily: When was the last time you heard someone else’s problem and easily gave them a solution? They were probably so grateful and it really was nothing for you to do it. Then you remembered the time when you didn’t know that answer and even the experience or situation that taught you how to solve it. This sign is so great because you realize through mentoring how much you have grown and how far you have come.
Once you realize your actions have created a change ask yourself: “Do I actually want this change? “Is it positively influencing me and my life?”
If it isn’t, reset your course by choosing new actions.
If it is, then carry on. Now with more intention.
So you could be different... and isn't that exciting!