It’s super cool when a client asks me a question. So the last of my ASK Me ANYTHING question series is today. Sue Woolley asks, How do you stay so positive and passionate!?
It’s easy to stay passionate and positive when you’re doing what you love. That could sound like such a cheesy answer, but so many happy people say the same thing. Honestly it’s a lot easier to be passionate and positive when life is supporting you rather than throwing you curve balls or sad situations.
#InnerTruth - my life is not perfect all the time. I just choose to be passionate and positive in spite of it.
Since there are many times when I’m not feeling so passionate or positive and I thought it might be more beneficial to speak to that.
So let’s draw back the curtain.
3 Times I don’t feel so Positive or Passionate!
1. I’m around sucky people:
Negative people can suck the life out of you. I know that when I’m around “can’t do” people or “life sucks” people it’s hard for me to feel positive. Sometimes they are referred to emotional vampires.
Part of my job is to coach people through difficult life situations that they either chose or are were on the receiving end of, but the difference is that they are looking to make a change rather than wallow in it.
I have to be clear in saying that expressing about a difficult situation, clearing the feelings of a bad experience or saying you’re stuck is very different from being a sucky person.
If you have negative people in your life you may want to rethink the relationship and get honest with them and help them move forward or if nothing changes then cut ties or at least reduce your exposer to them before they suck you dry.
2. My values are being dishonored:
This can happen because you are doing it to yourself, for example, if hard work is a value and then you have been checking (playing on) Facebook rather than working on an urgent project you’re going to feel pretty crappy.
The other way is someone doing it to you. If you’re not feeling great at any moment or even more you’re ticked or annoyed with something or someone ask yourself why. You might have just had your values dishonoured.
I run a women’s community called Dynamic Women in Action and when people say they’re coming and they don’t show I feel negativity brewing inside of me because commitment, trust and giving my word are huge values of mine. It’s in those moments you may be like me and need to self-manage and you can do that by focusing on where you are honoring your values.
3. I’m stuck:
Feeling stuck or that obstacles are in your way is often a way that you can lose momentum and then positivity. It’s hard to be all chipper if you can’t make progress on something. For example, the scale has stopped, but you’re still eating healthfully, you don’t know how to do the next step of a project or you’re waiting on someone’s reply.
I often get stuck trying to figure something out or I lose momentum and feel like blocks are being placed before me.
Ask yourself what “can” be done, ask for help and allow yourself to take a break are all good ways to not get overthrown by the negativity. In my experience when you get moving again the motivation and happy sauce will return.You should never be expected to be fake positive in any area of life. Of course we often have to put our best selves forward depending on the situation, but having people to listen to your feelings, thoughts and struggles can help a lot. Make sure you have an outlet so you can be your best self.
3 ways to be more Positive and Passionate
These are 3 of the top ways I stay passionate and positive, but I have a lot more and everyone is different, so I'd love to hear from you!
How do you stay passionate and positive? Dancing to music? Walking your dog?
Let me know!