Last week, I shared the first part of this blog where I talked about the backstory of I locked in a shift in my business and what a shift means. Now, let’s continue…
Why do we want to shift our perspective and then lock it in?
When you’ve done the work to get yourself into a new better place, you don't want to shift back to where you were. It is so easy to shift back into what is comfortable.
If we're going to make that change, we need to do something to lock it in. Sometimes with clients, we lock in a perspective with ‘yes’ ‘no’ statements. They give you safety bumpers like in a bowling alley.
Shifts can also be locked in by changing your physical environment. It can be as simple as finding a different type of flooring in your house. I’ll ask clients, “Where is there different flooring in your house? Does the room you're in go from carpet to tile? Can you jump over it like a threshold?” Jump into this new place. If we can jump into this new place, then there's that physical event that happens and the physical reminder that you have been changed.
It's kind of like Joseph Campbell's Model of a Hero. The hero goes into the belly of the whale. They hear the call. They say, “Yes, I'm going to go into this shift or into this battle or into this journey to have the shift.” They have encounters and battles along the way. Then they come out. They emerge. They are shifted. They are different and in a new environment.
Shifts can also be witnessed and have a ceremony. That's why for a lot of major events in life, we have a wedding ceremony with people watching to really commemorate that special shift. From some people I've talked to who did a little courthouse wedding, they said it just didn't feel the same as when they attended other people’s ceremonies and receptions.
Think back to when you graduated from school or a program. For me, I graduated from university. However, I didn't go to the actual graduation because I was traveling Europe. I decided to stay after my rugby team was in Barcelona together to do a tour. I missed my commencement, which meant that I felt a little bit like it didn't happen. That the moment was not marked by walking across the stage, moving the string of my cap from one side to another or throwing it up in the air.
What I did to lock in the shift: A funny story
Before I share this story, think about what would be a special item or way you’d lock in a shift because if you had suggested to me how I would lock in my shift just four hours later, I never would have approved. How I locked in my shift might be something that you’d be a little repelled by because it’s not how you’d lock in your shift.
I had clarity and then a shift in how I want to market my business and my services. I was going to go from the “work-boots” into the “sparkly shoes”. I'll let you know to be completely transparent, I was crying through this epiphany with relief to have the clarity and because I felt its truth in my soul.
She said to me, “I'm glad to see you're crying because making a big shift can be a scary thing. If you weren't crying, I'd be worried about you.”
After this, my coach asked me, “How are you going to lock in the shift?”
The next day was actually my 44th birthday, which was really cool timing, so I was thinking, “Well, I'm going to turn 44.” That was kind of the funny answer, but I didn't say it because it was already happening and was not how I was going to lock in the shift.
Anyway, I sat there, and I thought, I'm going to buy red-bottom shoes (Christian Louboutin shoes). I told her, and she replied, “Well, I'm not mad about that.” We were in LA, so she said, “Okay, so we're going to Rodeo Drive tomorrow?” I was like, “Yeah, I’m buying the sparkly shoes!”
She wondered, “Do you know what you’d buy?” I said, “No, I don't have any Christian Louboutin shoes. I haven’t even looked at them before. I don't know.” Then she tells me, “Go in my closet.”
She had some in her closet, so I grabbed a pair. They were a pink and black pair with spikes on them. When I put them on, my energy matched the shift. I was like, “Oh, here I am in these great shoes.”
The funny thing is, just five minutes before, I was blowing my nose and cleaning myself up because I had a really big cry. Now, I'm sitting super confidently in this chair with these great shoes on, these Christian Louboutin shoes, the red bottom shoes.
Now, if we went back about four or five hours before that, there was talk at this mastermind of us going to Rodeo Drive shopping. They were all excited, and they turned to me because I was the only one not excited about shopping on Rodeo Drive. I've been there before. I don't really care about pretentious brands and blah, blah, blah.
I thought, “I don't care. I don't care about shopping. I'm here to get the answers. I've been wanting some clarity. I want to have a shift. I want to know what I'm going to be doing. I want to have answers. I want to get what I paid for to be here at this mastermind. Not shopping.”
I said, “Yeah, we can go if we get all of our work done.” This is because it was before the shift when I was still in my work boots thinking, “No, I'm only allowed to go to Rodeo Drive if I've done the work.”
How interesting when she said, “What are you going to do to make the shift the lock this in?” I said, “I'm going to buy a pair of red bottom shoes.” I was excited. After I said that, I put on the shoes, and then I embodied the confidence and joy. Trying on the shoes is how I started to lock in this shift because I didn't want to slip back into this place that I was stuck in since 2019, with a lack of clarity and lack of my soul-driven path.
We had a great dinner. Afterwards, in bed, I looked online and found these amazing new sparkly shoes.
There was also a lot of stuff happening in my head. It was things like:
The practicality. My limiting beliefs. My old way of thinking over in the work boots was potentially going to sabotage this powerful shift. I knew I needed to do this. I needed to get them.
Then the next day, after we finished a lot of our work, we headed to Rodeo Drive. The funny thing is when we arrived, there was a lineup outside the store, which I also then thought was absolutely ridiculous that we were lining up to spend a ton of money.
In my head, I was like, “I don't want to be part of it.” I said, “Actually, let's just go around the rest of Rodeo Drive, and then we'll come back here.” We went around. I didn't really care about things. It kind of felt a little bit like the movie Pretty Woman. Julia Roberts is going into these stores and people aren't treating her seriously because she doesn't have any of the bags, and she's wearing her Rolex and throwing money all over the place right away.
It was quite interesting, just the feeling of that. We go all the way around, and we come right back to Christian Louboutin. I walk in the door and I see my shoes, the shoes that I want, I see them. I said, “Oh, I'm going to work my way around because they're over there.” It was like they had a personality, like I personified them.
The store clerk laughed and said, “Oh, she's planning her course, and she has her eyes on a pair.” I was like, “I do. I'm going to be trying some on that are over there.” I went around, and I saw a bunch of shoes that were gorgeous, but also not practical for me because if I'm wearing 100-millimeter or 120-millimeter high shoes, I can't walk around on stage for keynotes and I can't be at an event all day. Not only that, but I have had plantar fasciitis issues.
Let's be real. I'm in my 40s. Every time I play soccer on turf, it hurts my feet. I'm not going to be too crazy about my shoes, but I still want them to be the sparkly shoes. I go and I try them on. I tried three pairs on. Some light pink ankle boots. I tried some white 100-millimeter shoes, and then I tried on my shoes - Hot Chick Slings in hot pink.
Whether you purchase a new ring, a red blazer, a Wonder Woman costume, whatever it may be, when you put the thing on, it can help you to lock in the shift and revisit the feeling you originally had. For me, these are an investment.
The funny thing is after I bought them, my coach said, “Actually, California is the worst place to buy them because we have more sales tax.” Then the practical part of me spoke up, “Yeah, I totally could have bought some shoes at an outlet and saved money.”
But the key thing is, when you go to lock in a shift, the locking in needs to happen very close to when the shift happened. Otherwise, we get back into the old habits, back into the limiting beliefs, the saboteur starts to awaken and go, “Oh my gosh, they're going to be on the right path. We have to yell, be loud, and be obnoxious in order to keep them safe in this comfortable place.”
You're not running from a saber-toothed tiger, right? You're not fleeing from a burning building. You're okay. You're just making a shift into what is important in your life. For me, it was crucial that I bought them the next day. It was also crucial that I had my these people with me, my coach and the other two ladies who were there. It was crucial that I had this experience at that time, that I did not leave LA and that mastermind without locking it in.
Now, the cool thing is, I did then wear the shoes for when Jack Canfield interviewed me in Vegas just two days later.
I'm telling you all of this not so that you go buy red-bottom shoes. No, I'm not saying that is what has to happen for you. What I am saying is anytime you have made a shift mentally, emotionally, physically, in your perspective, whatever it may be, lock it in, it is crucial that you lock it in so that you don't slide back. You have different options of how you lock things in.
But actually, I could have purchased glitter to recreate the sparkly part. I could go and buy a little sparkling jewel to clip on my shoes. I could buy a little porcelain shoe. I could go online and find a picture of sparkly shoes, print it off and stick it up. I could have a sparkly shoe painting commissioned. There are so many different things that I could have done, and you have the same options as well.
What you can do
I ask you right now, think about what things in your life have you been trying to stay in, but you keep shifting out of it. Is there a new role, a new habit, a new way of thinking, something that's happened in your life, and you want to stay there without going back?
Lock it in.
If I can be of any help in doing some perspective work, going through that in order to help you get to that new perspective, to help you to get that shift happening, and then lock it in, I'm so happy to be able to do that for you. Reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org. Tell me a little bit more about what I can support you with.
I'm curious, what was your biggest takeaway? What I hope for you is that you step into a more soul-centered or purpose driven place, that really has you feeling at your utmost best. Towards the life you were meant to live and the work you're supposed to do in the world.
I'm going to do another talk on that because the shift was so strong and so amazing for me. I can see, for many of my clients too, the shift happens and even though it’s positive they freak out. They get scared, they backpedal, and they backtrack, and then they're right back where they started.
I've seen that so many times, and it just breaks my heart when I know it's the right thing for them. Did these shoes cost a lot? You could think of it that way. Were they a great investment in the direction I'm going? For sure!
When I was back on Zoom with my coach and her other clients, she asked, “Are you wearing the shoes right now?” I said, “No, I'm inside. I'm wearing slippers.” She says, “Put the shoes on. You're supposed to wear the shoes.” And so I did! And I keep putting them on, even just when it’s me at home!
I'm in the land of sparkling shoes now, and I've locked this in, just know that while you may not be seeing outwardly the shift online, know that inwardly and behind the scenes, this stuff is happening. I already talked to you about the shift that happened to me, change is coming, and why I'm loving the word ‘provoke’. I'm also telling you about this humorous keynote that I'm developing.
Just stay tuned for all of that excitement. Please know that when you engage with me, give me feedback on these different aspects, and you're part of my journey, it all really does help to keep me locked in this shift and help me to go in this direction that I know is meant for me.
Thank you. Thank you for your support. If I can be of any service - Please reach out!
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