How to Lock in a Shift (Part 1)

Have you had a really great shift, but you’re worried about slipping out of it or worse, you know that you already have?

I locked in a really big shift in my business life, and I want to share with you how you can do that too. ​

In previous blogs, I shared about feeling stuck and how not to feel stuck anymore. I also shared about how I had that shift. Now, I’m going to talk about how you can lock in that shift for yourself. 

Have you ever been in a place where you didn't like where you were, and you felt stuck? Then, you found the clarity to change, but you found yourself slipping back into the old ways, the old habits, the old behaviors, or the old way of thinking? Because if your answer is yes, then read on. 

Backstory

Back in 2019, I was looking for some clarity on what my unique positioning statement is.  I kept asking:

• What is the one thing that I do? 
• What can I hang my shingle on? 
• What's that one thing?

I went to different coaches, and they were telling me, “Oh, you should be doing this” or “You should be doing that.” Nobody was actually properly pulling it out of me. I was so frustrated. It was not that I was being picky because I'm extremely decisive. It was that everything that was chosen for me didn't feel like the right fit. 

Maybe you've had that experience before and felt like, “This just isn't right.” You know when it is right and when it isn’t. 

In high school, when you try on a prom dress, you're like, “It's nice, but I'm not having that feeling.” If you've ever watched those, “Say Yes to the Dress” shows, and you see the moment that the bride puts on that dress, and she says, “This is the one”. She often has that emotional response or that really pumped up excited response. 

I was looking for that feeling. 

Now sometimes I thought, “Oh, this is just good for now. Let's just run with this.” That's kind of what happened with the Virtual Assistant Made Easy Program that I started. It felt good. There was that spark there. I knew it was a fit for my mission of helping business owners to be able to implement strategy, to be able to have some freedom in their business and not be so overwhelmed and burnt out. Also, business owners will be able to get ahead because the tech is done, and the different tasks are completed. I support them with the strategy as well as supporting the virtual assistant. 

However, I knew that this wasn't the soul work, the stuff I was meant to do on this planet. I was frustrated, but I never gave up hope because I had such a yearning for this clarity. 

I could see myself on stage in a BIGGER way!

That's the thing. I could see myself on these massive stages with all these women, impacting them. I knew that it would be life-changing. I’ve had this feeling of wanting to wake up women - women who are just going through the motions and moving ahead those women who are feeling stuck, or the women who are flying under the radar because they're tired of getting attacked for standing out. They know they keep getting taken down, and they're fatigued.  I have such a desire to support them that I knew I had to find the clarity. 

Finding my clarity

Finally, I found it. When I was in LA in a coaching mastermind, with my business coach/marketing coach, and I had the shift. 

I had this epiphany that I've been in the work boots. Meaning that rather than being in my zone of genius, I've been in a place where I'm really good, but it's more head work. It was harder to do. If you can relate to that feeling, let me know. That feeling of, “I'm really good at this. This is going really well, but it's still not the right fit.”

I'm in the work boots, and she said to me, “I think your woman is tamed, and she wants to be unleashed.” I was like, “Yes. Yes!” That for me was the answer. I had this inner knowing that, “Oh, we're on the right path here. This is it. This is the piece.” Previously in the year and I've said this in different places, podcasts, blogs, and such, that I heard our national President of CAPS (Canadian Association of Professional Speakers) say, “Speakers should only speak if they're going to persuade or provoke.”

That word provoke got me really excited. I was like, “Okay, I'm really excited about this provoke, but what am I provoking? What's the thing I'm provoking?” 

When she said that your woman is tamed, I was like, “Yes.” We just want to bust out. She said, “I think maybe you're tamed, too.” I was like, “Yes because I'm in this work boots place, and I want to be in the sparkly shoes.” 

Do you feel the difference between the two? I want to go from work boots to sparkly shoes. Maybe you also have been in a specific place, and you want to shift to another place. Maybe you've had a negative perspective, and you want to go into a more positive perspective. 

As we were wrapping up my coaching session, that epiphany for me was like gold. I was like, “I know it’s a two-day mastermind, but I could just be done here. 

But she said, “Wait a second. Before we end this, how are you going to lock in this shift tomorrow? Like when you wake up, how are you going to stay in this place of sparkly shoes, of joy, of soul work, of going back into marketing yourself as a life coach? Rather than the work boots and the business coaching, the problem-solving and the strategy? How are you going to lock in the shift?”

Great questions…but first I’ll share…

A shift can be in your mindset. For me, it was a shift in my business more so of, “Whoa, I'm over here, and I really think I want to be over there.” I really want to go away from marketing myself solely as a business coach to marketing myself more as a life coach. That was a complete mental shift in how I viewed my business. I've been doing life coaching since the beginning. It's been like 13 years now. 

But when I go to events, I speak more about coaching small business owners and virtual assistant services. It's a change, and I've been holding back on what I’m doing my new humorous keynote on. It’s not about VA services. It's not about business strategy. ​

The shift for me was mental on how I viewed my business and my services. Maybe for you, a shift is coming from a limiting belief into a new paradigm for yourself. Limiting beliefs like, ​

• “Oh, no one's going to buy for me. I can't sell that.”
• “I'm not confident enough.”
• “I'm too old to do that.”

Shifting it to, 

• “There are people who are going to love this.” 
• “I do have the right qualifications to offer this.”
• “I am pretty amazing, and I'm going to be able to do this.” 

A shift can also happen in your perspective of a situation. Now you might think, “Well, that's a limiting belief.” No, your perspective of something. It could be one perspective that's still a positive perspective. But when you shift it to a different perspective, it allows more to happen. 

For example, my perspective of my business could be, “I'm a business coach, and I offer these things.” Then a new perspective could be, “Well, I'm originally a life coach, so I can offer all kinds of services.”

A perspective shift might also be about a situation. For example, “I don't have many options because I've got kids at home.” On the flip side, a new perspective you could hold about that situation is, “It's amazing that I get to be home with my kids, and I also have the freedom to choose what I want to do.” 

It's just a different way of looking at things. It's like you put on a new set of glasses, a new way of looking at something, so you’re able to then take the blinders off and things can be opened up. 

Anytime I do perspective work with my clients, we look at the situation, and how they are viewing this topic. 

Then we try another perspective, then another one and another one. We talk about, 

• What are the joys of this perspective? 
• What are the costs of this perspective? 
• How does it feel? 

Then, after trying them all on again, we decide on what is the right perspective for them to hold. 

Now, when you make that shift, it might feel like Goldie Locks, “Oh, as we go this way, there are even better perspectives. But that one is so unbelievable that I can't take that one on. But this one feels more comfortable.” 

For example, it could be that you dislike someone, and your perspective is, “I hate them, I'll never be friends with them.” Then another perspective is, “We're best friends again.” That's just too far off. Maybe in the middle is, “I can be cordial to them. Maybe I'll add them to my prayers every day. Or when I see them, I'll say hi. That's it.” 

With the different perspectives, you can grab onto a new one. It's just like changing your clothes, “What perspective are we going to have today?” But we don't want to shift back into the old perspective. 

For me, the shift would be me going back to focusing specifically on business coaching, doing all my marketing towards that, all my offerings towards that, and all my speaking engagements towards that and scaling the VA services even more. 

Because it is easy to shift back. Why? This is comfortable. Whenever you have a perspective shift, a mental shift, a shift of some kind, you have to lock yourself into this new place. Otherwise, you're going to shift back out. It's kind of like if your body got realigned, it's so easy for us to shift back into that place of misalignment. 

In my next blog, I will share with you what I did to lock in that shift.

P.S. The launch of the Dynamic Women Trailblazer Secrets Book is here! We’re going to have a virtual launch party, and we’d love for you to celebrate with us! Grab your free ticket here.

Read my other blogs:

1. How I Got the Courage to Stop Hiding
2. The Core Problem I See in Women
3. I’ve lost 35 lbs now