In my last blog, I talked about the five reasons why you need motivation.
You probably know how not having motivation will hold you back.
But did you know it’s possible to get the next level of motivation quickly?
If you’re really motivated, what would be possible at 120% motivation? Lots!
It actually reminds me of a funny story.
When I lived in Japan, I was playing Ultimate Frisbee, it was just a pickup game with a bunch of friends, both international and local friends. Now, I have been quite an athlete in my past. At that point, I was in my early 20s. I played competitive soccer and varsity rugby. I was fit.
We were all running around. Then, one of my friends stopped playing and went off the field.
She said her heart was going too fast, so she needed to sit down because something was wrong. Well, Keiko is not an athlete. She didn't know what happens to your body when you run hard. She didn’t know what the next level of fitness was like. It surprised her. And she was 30.
So I’m curious for you.
If you have motivation, how do you know you’re at the top of what’s possible? If you increase your motivation it could give you that super boost you need to reach some of those goals you don't even dare speak about because they're so big.
Imagine if you were at a higher level of motivation, what would be possible for you?
The answer is, so much would be possible.
The Easiest Action to be More Motivated
I’m going to give you the quick fix, the solution outside of you that will help you to have motivation. It's the easiest way… get motivation from others.
Now, I'm not saying you sit there and ask someone else to motivate you. Instead, immerse yourself in it. Be near it. Be around it. Be surrounded by people who are motivated.
Part of why I run events is because I know it’s an instant jet fuel charge of motivation for people. When they leave, they're like:
Excited and motivated can be completely the same because it's that energy to go and do it. Inspiration is also another form of motivation because it pushes you.
But how do you choose where to choose? Go to events where the leaders inspire you and share things that can motivate you.
Five Things You Can Look for in an Event or Place that will Motivate You
Throughout the year, I look for ways of boosting my own motivation, where it doesn't come from me, where I'm not responsible for it. Over the past few years, I haven't been fully myself. When I'm coaching, I feel 150% myself. But in other ways, I feel like I do need motivation.
I look to where I can go, where I can drop myself into a place, almost like a container where I know it will motivate me. So here are the five things you want to look for when choosing an event or place to go, to gain motivation.
1. Attend events, training, and webinars where you’re going to learn.
When we're in that learning state, we grow. When we have a growth mindset and learn something new, it can be the solution to a problem. These solutions will motivate us. They will put energy into us.
One time, I learned another cool feature of Facebook Groups, and all of a sudden a surge of energy came through me. I was motivated, and I went to my team to share about it. They got excited about it and now we are going to put it into play.
2. Make sure it's a place you can be inspired.
Now, how do you know that in advance? Well, by looking at the event, you can think:
You can be inspired by their story. When you're inspired by their story, that helps you to really step into what you want to do. I can remember I was leading the Million Dollar Woman Program, the live two-day boot camp portion, and I was sharing a story about where I started in my business. By seeing the first video I did on my business page, it’s quite funny how far I’ve come and how robotic I seem then. One of the ladies pointed out and said, “That gives me hope.” She said, “I see how you were in the early stages in that video and I see you now and I think, ’Wow, that gives me hope that I can have the same transformation.” She was then motivated to go and do video and build your business.
When you're inspired by someone else's story, or inspired by how they speak, you have an opportunity to use the motivation coming out of you.
3. Make sure it's an event where you can meet other awesome people.
For me, I look for events where I can meet other awesome people. A lot of them are moms, leaders and business owners.
When you can connect with people, their motivation will rub off on you and it will give you energy. Just be curious and ask questions: hearing someone else share, hearing their stories, and meeting them, can really encourage you and motivate you to dive into something you've wanted to do.
4. Make sure you get to share too.
It's one thing to just sit back and hear someone talk to you. But when you have the opportunity to engage and share, that's integral for motivation because it's a two-way conversation.
If you're hanging out and connecting with people who are motivating you, or who share something that can cause an emotional reaction in you. Then when you connect back, they can also have an emotional reaction which builds your motivation even higher.
5. Attend an event that's going to stretch you to the point where you want to implement something.
Not just some fluffy thought like, “Oh, yeah, I could do that one day.” But something that really says,
In committing and implementing, you're going to have the motivation of knowing, “I told other people I would do this,” and you’ll say, “I'm putting this in my calendar to do”.
I'm curious, which of these five are most important to you? Let me know below.
With motivation, you definitely want to have a plan because it keeps the motivation going.
I encourage you to attend one of my events. They're very positive and inclusive. They definitely will motivate you and get you going towards your goals. Then in times when you have motivation, you can grow to that next level.
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Do you want more motivation? Maybe you’re hoping there’s a little pill you can take and it’ll instantly make you motivated. The news is, there is no pill. You know there isn't, but you're still looking for that motivation.
As I have been coaching for over a decade, I continuously find people who can’t find their motivation.
Looking for motivation
It’s okay if you’re looking for it because you have goals you want to achieve. You have processes, habits, systems, and things you want to put in place. You just need a little bit of fuel…some motivation.
My husband jokes about this. He’ll be sitting on the couch, needing to get up and do something. I'll ask, “Well, what are you waiting for?” He’ll reply, “I need some courage.”
Really, what it means is, he needs some motivation. Now sadly, sometimes the motivation people turn to is food or alcohol or they don’t move forward at all.
Why is lack of motivation so hard to find? Let me share with you five reasons:
The Five Reasons Why You Need Motivation
1. It takes more energy when you don’t have motivation.
Without motivation, you won't have a desire to do it. You won't feel like doing it. Therefore, when you don't want to do something, it takes so much energy to make it happen. Do you agree? This extra energy means extra time and that will cause the next few reasons why you need motivation.
2. You miss out on opportunities.
There might be some opportunities coming your way, and you see them and then you lack the motivation to do the necessary steps because
So you end up missing out on an opportunity because you don't do it… because you didn't have the motivation to get it done.
3. You could receive a lower result.
If you are gung-ho and have high motivation, then you're probably going to not just hit your goal, but move beyond it. If you're motivated to do something, but the motivation is low, you're probably going to get lower results.
4. You do the crazy horrible P word.
Procrastination. You procrastinate. You put it off… you put it off… you put it off… you put it off… and then it's painful. It's painful every single day that you're not doing the thing that you need to be doing because you're procrastinating on it. This lack of action lowers your motivation even more.
When these four things happen, it brings us to the fifth one which is the worst part about a lack of motivation.
5. Your confidence fades.
When you're not moving forward and you're giving proof you're not completing tasks, then your confidence drops.
Do you think you're going to be any more motivated with no confidence? No.
These 5 reasons show how important it is to keep your motivation high, but how do you do it?
Here are 3 ways to increase your motivation:
There are so many other ways to boost your motivation. In my next blog, I will share with you one easy way to get a huge amount of motivation in a short amount of time!
For now, join the Dynamic Women Global Community and be inspired and motivated by other women.
In my last two blogs, I shared with you how you can prepare to make better decisions and how to make decision-making easier in the moment.
Now, let’s go to the last part of this 3-part series: what you can do after you make decisions to stay strong and confident in it.
The “After” Moment
I've got three things to help you stay committed to that decision. A lot of times just being in that decision-making of “Should I do it? Should I not? Should I go this way? Or should I go that way” can just be in and of itself that depletes energy, motivation, and focus.
But once you make that decision, you can get the ball rolling. You can dive in and go for it. It’s helpful to solidify that decision as fast as you can…
1. Get into action
If the decision is “Yes, I'm going to join the gym” then get on the phone and call today. If the decision is to put in a proposal to be a speaker at a conference, then start filling in the form today, or at least figure out exactly when you're going to do it.
2. Share with others
Tell others what you’re going to do because the greatest way to keep you accountable is to have someone check in on you, asking,
When people ask, it’s definitely going to get you into action. You've probably been in that situation before.
When you do tell others, it’s also helpful because it feels like a commitment. They know that you've said it. You know you've told them. To be witnessed in that moment and have them react in a positive way is powerful, so choose wisely who you tell. When you share something and they get excited, it helps to motivate you. But if you tell someone who is not supportive, their response will hinder you or hold you back.
3. Put the steps/actions in your calendar
Or make some habit or routine adjustments. If you've decided to get up early, like being part of the 5AM Club, then a habit or routine adjustment you're going to make is your bedtime. Maybe it is avoiding using electronics in the evening. Maybe it's what you eat or drink at night. So you might have your last coffee at noon and tell yourself you're going to turn off all electronics at eight, so you can go to bed at nine.
You make those habits or routine adjustments in order to be able to cement in the decision and move forward with it. Add it into your calendar as well. Scheduling the steps you need to take, helps you stay committed to your decision.
So now you know the three things you can do in advance of making any decisions, three things to do in the moment of making decisions and three things to do after you make decisions. I'm curious though, which of these nine points (from all 3 blogs) is the one that is really going to make a change for you? Let me know in the comments!
If you have any questions on how you can implement any of these, just book a call at https://dianerolston.youcanbook.me/ then let’s chat!
My goal with this series is to give you clarity before you have to make decisions (last week’s blog), make decision-making easier in the moment (this blog), and after you make the decision you will stay strong and confident in it (next week).
In the Moment of Making a Decision
When you are in that moment of decision-making, you’re probably asking yourself…
I've got you covered with these three questions. Even if you haven't done the “In advance” work from the last blog of having that ideal life designed, your life purpose and knowing your goals, you can still use these three techniques.
1. How do you feel?
If someone asks you…
Or you have to make a decision on whether to apply for a certain job… you have to ask yourself…
It's either going to be a strong, “Yes” or “meh”. A lot of times if it's a strong “Yes”, I say go for it. This is definitely in alignment with what you're wanting.
But if you get an email, and you're like, “Man, I don't know…” A lot of times that “meh feeling” means you're not really excited about it, so your decision is probably a no.
Now, this is not to be confused with that feeling of “Oh my gosh, I'm so nervous. I don't think I can do this. That's out of my comfort zone.” That's a very different feeling. That's like anxiety, worry or a little fear about “Can I do this?” Which is based on your limiting beliefs.
Not every decision is a clear “yes” or “no”. Instead, there could be two or more options.
It could be a fun decision, for example, “Should we go to Bali or Egypt for our trip?”
Or something more permanent, it could be, “Do I want to have another child or not? We've got a couple of children, and our life is really in a good place, but now's the time to make a decision if we have another one”.
It might be a decision of, “Do we move to this new place because we can have a slower lifestyle or do we stay here because this is where the work is?”
You might have two options that are really good, but it's going to change your life. So this is where we go to the next two techniques.
2. Connecting to your values
This is an activity you would do with a coach. It’s one I take clients through and they get a lot of insight from it.
Knowing what your values are and being able to connect to your values in decision-making is so powerful. Because when you look at your values and you ask yourself, “Does this decision put me in alignment with my values?” and that's the case, then you're going to have more energy or a more soul-connected feeling that it’s the right decision.
But if you look at your values and that decision is going to have you dishonor your values, then it's going to be pretty obvious that the decision is a no.
Let's look at one of the decisions that you could make in life. It could be to take on a project or take on a new role in a company. After some further discussion, you realize the company cares more about the bottom line than it does its customers. You've heard and read on the internet about times where the company has really screwed over the customer or client in order to take more profit.
If your value is respect for others or fairness, then you see that in working with this company (especially if that would be part of your role) would mean you would strongly be going against your values. That would be so horrible. You'd be in dissonance (void of energy, or negative)most of your job. It's easy in that case to see “Wow, I don't want to take this role because it would be going against my values.”
This can also help you in choosing a relationship like a partnership, employee, collaboration, etc. When you look at your values and their values, you have to make sure they're in alignment. Because you saying “Yes” to an opportunity, might stop you from being able to honor your own values.
If you are very strong in your values with leadership or creativity and you know that in this new project you're not going to be able to do either of those then it might be better to say no. If it’s short-term, you could be OK with it, but if it’s going to go on for years, then it’s not going to be a good fit for you.
3. Take the decision and cross-check it with your goals
You can ask yourself a very simple question: Does this move me toward my goals or away from my goals?
I've had clients come to me with a really amazing opportunity. For example, to have a radio show. If they came to me with that type of opportunity, then I'd ask them…
If the answer is “Yes” and you gave a reason like…
Then it could be a great opportunity for you. But if your goal this year is to write a book, or to spend more time with your family, or focus on your health, and this was just going to be one more thing on your plate, then it's not going to move you towards your goals so it should be a no.
Next year, it might be a great choice because your goals have changed. But for right now you have to check any decision-making against your current goals. I often have to go back to my goals when I'm presented with a fabulous opportunity or one that I feel like, “Oh, I've got some obligation here. I should probably do it.”
When I go to my goals and I know what I'm trying to accomplish and the amount of time energy and money I need to do it, it helps me to respond with, “As amazing as it is, I have to say ‘No’ because I need to say ‘Yes’ to my current goals.”
Those are the three things that you can do in the moment of making decisions. In my next blog, I will share with you what you can do AFTER you make the decision so you can stay strong and confident in it.
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