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3 Reasons Why You Can’t Find Answers to Your Problems

4/28/2022

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Have you been struggling to find the answers to the problems that you’re having? There could be a solution. It could be staring right at you. It could be right beside you. It could be so in your face. But why aren't you seeing it? 
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Your problems could be:
  • “I want to make a product for my business, but I don’t know what it should be.”
  • “I want to name this product I’m making, but I don’t know what to call it.”
  • “Should I move?”
  • “Should I be ending my relationship?”
  • “I really want to be healthier. How can I do it?”
When you’re trying to find a solution, it’s like you’re looking for ONE solution or maybe you have MULTIPLE solutions but you haven’t come to that one clear solution you’d like to do. Since you haven't had that clarity, it's so hard to move forward.
Here are the three reasons why you’re not doing it, can’t do it, or can’t figure it out. 
First Reason: You’ve Got Blinders On
Why can't you see the solution? Because you've got blinders on. 
Racehorses have blinders on so they only see straight in front of them. That's really helpful because they're not distracted by the other horses or the crowd. However, when you’re trying to find a solution for something and you have blinders on, you’re not seeing what you need to see. 
You're blocking your peripheral vision. You're only focused on one track. But if you're looking for a solution, you want to be able to pull from all different areas. Pull from all different possibilities. 
We can think of the blinders as limiting beliefs. They're narrowing your view. For example, you want to exercise more, but your limiting belief is you’re not athletic. 
The saboteurs jump in too. They make your blinders even bigger so you don't get to see what's possible. This is really sad because you could have a really great idea or an opportunity you’re not seeing. ​
You really need to do some brainstorming with someone else who will support you so that all of these different ideas can come out. 
Second Reason: The Solution is Right in Front of Your Face
Sometimes, we are looking for a solution, but it's already right in front of us. 
I did a coaching session with one of my peers, and we were trying to figure out my ONE thing… my ONE word… the ONE thing that I am known for. 
I was like, “I don’t know! I'm trying to find it.” I'm looking around to find the answer. Then she questioned me, “Diane, isn’t it Dynamic Women? Isn’t that your thing? Isn't that what you talk about and what you train on and what your books and your programs are about?”
YES! It was right in front of my face! 
If it was so obvious, why didn’t I pick it? Because it was so obvious. Maybe you've been in this place that it's just too simple. It's too obvious. It's right there. 
Sometimes we overlook the obvious choice because…
  • It’s been done
  • It’s predictable
  • Everyone’s doing it
  • No one’s ever done it
Sometimes we want to overcomplicate things. I’ve seen female leaders believe that if it's not complicated, it's not worth doing. If it's not complicated, it's not good. These are all BS. 
How do you get out of this? Write all the options down and then ask someone else, “Is there something I’m missing?” It’s helpful when it’s someone unbiased... Like a coach or someone that’s already in your corner so that you can get the best answer possible. 
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Oftentimes, the solution right in front of you is the one you need to take. 
Third Reason: You’re in the Picture
One of my favorite quotes is from Les Brown, “When you're in the frame, you can't see the picture.”
When you're in the picture, you're not seeing what's beside you, what's behind you, what's around you, and you don't also see how the big picture looks.
It's good to get someone else's perspective on many areas:
  • Your situation
  • Your business
  • Your relationships
  • And how they're viewing you in your life
They can tell you what they see in the big picture because you can't always see it
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It's sometimes hard to make decisions when you’re in the frame because we're so stuck on that one small piece of the puzzle that's missing… we're not looking at the big picture. In my coach training, we call it the little ‘a’ and the big ‘A’ agenda. 
You can't be in the big ‘A’ agenda all the time because you're trying to actually get stuff done, the little ‘a’ agendas like:
  • You're making meals 
  • You're selling products
  • You're cleaning your house 
You're doing all these little things. That's where it's important that there's someone in your life, someone you trust, who can look and view the big picture for you. Who can tell you what they see in an honest kind way but also in a hard truth kind of way. While also acknowledging you and cheering you and calling you on your BS. ​
I encourage you to get somebody in your life that you trust, that can give you that honest feedback. 
Finding solutions to problems is a really great thing to be able to do. The best place they're hiding, sadly, is sometimes right beside you, right in front of you or around you. Find that person you trust who can help you… who can help you find the solutions so you know what you need to do. ​
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Read my other blogs here: 
  1. Seven Problems Holding YOU Back from Your Happiness
  2. This is my biggest problem…
  3. You probably suck at this!
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