Are you wondering what you want in life or where to set your goals?
Not knowing what you want can be frustrating and annoying. This will cause you to not know where to focus your time and energy.
Maybe you want to know what you want in your business, life, and/or in your relationships. A question I get asked a lot is, “Diane, how do I figure out what I want?”
Or when I start working with clients, I ask them what it is that they want. People are like, “Man, I'm not sure. Can you help me figure that out?”
Well, yes, I can. So today, I'm going to go through that with you in a very simple way that you can even do it on the back of a napkin in a coffee shop. I'm also going to give you the option of going through it as an action guide with my Three Simple Steps to Figure Out What You Want.
Let me take you through some of the simplified versions of it.
First of all, are these all the areas in your life which you’d like to get clarity on?
Once you go through and you figure out all the areas of your life, ask yourself, “How satisfied do I want to be in each of these areas?” By satisfied, I mean content and happy.
(Usually, when I go through this with a client, we are looking at the wheel, and we score where they are right now. If you want to go through that process, you can. Schedule your call here.)
If we looked at it on a scale of one to ten (one being not very happy and ten being very happy or satisfied in that area), how do you want it to be six months from now? How do you want it to be one year from now? Then you take that number.
Let me illustrate that for you.
Let's focus on career. You're currently at a six, and you want it to be an eight or you've only scored where you want to be, and you score it at the eight. So then paint that picture. What does it look like in your career at an eight? How does it feel? What’s happening?
What does it look like for your health at a nine? And so on?
Not just what does it look like? But what does it feel like?
If it's around your health, it looks like me going to the gym.
These are all the pieces that could be part of it. Then ask yourself, “Because of that, what's happening?”
By going through this process, you’ll know what you want in every area of life. If that's what makes you satisfied, then that's what makes you happy. Really, that's the ultimate goal, isn’t it? To be happy and satisfied and content in life. Don’t you think?
When you know what it looks like to be happy in every area, it kicks off the clarity on the steps you must take and the things that will happen when you are there. That's how you set the goals around it.
Then I get asked the following question, “But what if I have too many things that I want?”
Great, you're a big dreamer or you have good clarity on all the different areas of life. Once you see the whole picture, you then get to decide:
If it’s in your career, you may be looking to get a promotion or raise your rates in your business to afford the kitchen renovation you're wanting.
Or maybe it’s hiring someone to help you so you can have a cleaner house. You start to see how something in one area will actually help another area.
Now another question is, “What if everyone around me knows what they're doing, and I don't? Or knows what they want to do, and I don't?” Well, that's probably because you're focusing on career or personal development and education as the area.
It's okay if you don't know what you want in every area. The key thing is if you can just design your life, then you'll be able to see what fits into the lifestyle you want.
I've had a lot of people first decide what their career or what their education will be. Then after that, they try to design their life, but it doesn't fit in anymore.
They then see the reality: they're always working or they're career has them traveling so they're always away. That's not what they were looking for. They just planned backwards.
The real desires come forward:
If you're thinking, “Everyone else knows what they want, and I don't”, it's okay, go through this process. Go through the exercise.
The last thing I need to clarify is if you do this process and then come to realize:
While doing this exercise, it's going to show you the things you value most in life. Then you're going to be able to start working towards that. Maybe having a career or having a business or investing, something that will help you to have a relaxing or travel-lifestyle. These are the steps as best as I can explain them in a blog.
If you want to do this exercise with a booklet to figure out what you want, then get the “3 Simple Steps to Figure Out What You Want” mini course as my gift to you. Then, you'll be able to really see a bigger, and clearer picture of what you want. Make sure you grab it and tell a friend because it's going to have more information about what you need and will help walk you through the process.
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