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Are you feeling tired of having to be on a treadmill towards your success and continuing to go after results and milestones, and it's still never really good enough?  Today, I'm sharing about stopping measuring your life according to your success. This was something I had to learn about many years ago as a recovering perfectionist and as someone who's highly driven and A-type. Maybe you can relate. It was always about…
But I often felt tired, unfulfilled, and empty. It's really sad I felt that way even though I often achieved what I wanted when I was younger…
I'm not saying that to brag. I'm sharing the pressure. I had the feeling of, “You have to do these things.” There was no doubt from others I’d perform and no discussion I'd be going to university. I continued in my life with goal after goal and result after result and asking myself, “Can I be the best at everything?” The greatest gift I received from my first coach was her helping me see that I was measuring life according to success when she introduced me to the wheel of life, which is a professional coaching tool. It is now a nonnegotiable, something that I go through every quarter, and then I take my clients through as well. Switching from measuring your life according to success to measuring life according to your satisfaction was a complete game changer for me.  I hope that if you haven't already heard of it, you go and do it or you reach out to me so that we can do it together. When you measure your life according to success, you will always be chasing success. Because the moment you achieve success, you probably won't fully celebrate it. You'll just look for the next goal or the next piece of success. Success is fleeting because…
Everything is a moment in time. What happens all the other days? Well, if you measure your life according to your satisfaction, then you can have success, not just when you're having the success, not just the moment you decided, but you can have happiness now, you can have happiness later, and you can have happiness every single day on the way to success. Recently, I spoke at the LEAP Conference put on by the Vancouver Regional Construction Association (VRCA) and Canadian Construction Women (CCW). They hosted this event, and I asked the audience, “Do you want to have happiness now or happiness later?” People were like, “Oh, I kind of want both?” Yes, it's like in construction. If you said to a homeowner or a soon-to-be homeowner whose house you're building your house, “Hey, do you want to have floors or ceilings?” They’d answer, “Don’t I want both and walls in between?” You do, right? You want success now and happiness now. You want happiness every single day and you want happiness and success on the day you feel like you're successful. But what's happening is we get into the success trap, where we're striving and pushing and working harder and ignoring our intuition, our self-awareness, what we want, and that inner voice. We just keep pushing it, pushing it down, pushing down, pushing it down because society is telling us these are the things that you want:
It is friggin’ tiring. Doesn't it tire you out just thinking about all of that? Yes! I have been a victim of that and so have my clients, and I see this in women in my audiences. Have you been as well? The Solution The simple solution is to stop measuring life according to success, get out of that success trap, and instead measure life according to your satisfaction. Right? A life built on satisfaction is happier, more full of energy, more full of confidence for yourself, there is more joy, there is more space, and you get to really honour the things that matter most to you. Because that's the problem. We're honouring things that matter to society. But really, that's society's agenda. It's not your agenda. If you're not even looking out for you, who is? Wrapping Up I encourage you to reach out to me. Let's do my Wheel of Life because there are extra areas in mine, which means extra opportunities for more satisfaction in life. There's a very specific way that I take my clients through.  The benefit of it is in the end, it's going to give you a 360 view of where you are in your life in your satisfaction. It's a game changer in the way that we use it to ask, “Where do we want to be?” Not let's look at the sadness of the low numbers now, but where do we want to be and let's use that to paint the picture about what life can look like. Some opportunities for you We had our 1st call for authors for the next book in the Dynamic Women® series. We had Success Secrets, Confidence Secrets, Trailblazer Secrets, and now Leadership Secrets. If you feel like you have something to share there, please apply here. Another opportunity is the She’s Goaled Program 2.0. In that, we’ll use the wheel of life and we're going to be helping you use that as a speed course to reach your goals with coaching masterminding, group support, connection with others. Every single month you’ll be able to reach your goals that much faster and feel much more satisfied in life. Satisfaction equals happiness, energy and resonance PLUS feeling proud, contentment and joy of being where you know you want to be. If you're still struggling around striving for success, let me know. If you want more success, but more ease reach out. You can comment or email me [email protected]. If you don’t want to be tired and worn out anymore, you can have success and happiness without having to give of yourself so fully and intensely. You get to take a step back and really decide what works best for you and live a life that has more space, more joy, and more time for you. Read my other blogs:
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