What the Top 6% of Leaders are Focusing on for a Balanced Life

Are you wondering how leaders do it all? How do they balance their lives, businesses, and priorities, but haven't lost their cool? 

In this blog, I’ll talk about what the top 6% of leaders are focusing on for a balanced life. 

What I'm seeing in the world right now is that as female business leaders, either you own your own business or you're in corporate, life is a little bit different than before COVID. 

As we kind of come out, it's taking a lot more for us to be able to handle the emotional bandwidth. We’re feeling a little bit more anxious and having more stress. 

In comparison to what we used to be able to do, we can’t handle as much. This is definitely true for me because I used to be at an event every night of the week or hosting multiple events during the week. I was booked back to back to back and I was handling it. I was actually thriving on it. There were so many things I could pack into my schedule. Then I got to this place of “Whoa, I can't handle as much as I used to.” 

Is this also true for you? Do you feel like you don't have as much capacity to handle as many events, bookings, or meetings as you used to before COVID?

We don't have that emotional stamina to make it happen and you're in this place of feeling the stress of it all:

• You feel a lack of confidence 
• You second-guess yourself
• You feel anxious about things
• You are apologetic for how you are 
• And you might even work longer hours because you're not as productive in the time you do have.

Then it can also affect your relationships in these ways:

• You're short with others or bark back
• You self-sacrifice
• You don’t show up as professional
• You’re easily influenced, which is pulling you in the wrong direction ​

Then when you're with your family or your loved ones, you're not present. Have you ever experienced that? You're with them physically, but you're not with them mentally because you're thinking about the 10, 20, or 30 other things you have to be doing at that moment. ​

Then this can drastically reduce your income and your profits.  

If you work for a company, it can influence how well you negotiate your pay or a promotion. This may mean you earn less compared to others in your field. Also, it can inhibit your ability to close some of the deals and land clients.

On the flip side, if you have a business, then maybe you end up being busy but not productive, you're not doing as well in sales, you're not selling as many products or services and your goals take longer to accomplish. 

This is why focusing on rebalancing really matters because what I've noticed is a lot of leaders who know where to focus their time, energy and money…

• have confidence
• are profiting
• are doing extremely well for themselves!

But not everyone is. It's not your fault if you're in this place. It's not your fault because when you’re a really successful woman or smart woman people ask us to take on more.  Isn’t the expression, “If you want something done, give it to a busy woman”?

We've been pushed to take on a lot of responsibilities. ​

We've been pushed to be superwomen… and now even more… superheroes. We’re not just expected to do our job, business, or career well, but we're expected to do every single other role well. That's a Superwoman. 

Being a Superhero means you’re not only doing extremely well in your career, and in every other area of life, but you're also saving everyone else in those places, too. It's overwhelming and sets us up for failure.

What I’m Seeing

I'm seeing that most women feel overwhelmed with all of the leadership podcasts, books, programs, and courses. You name it. There's so much out there. Sometimes it's hard to tell exactly where to start or even worse, it’s not clear what's actually going to give you real leverage or a return on investment. I don't know, there are too many things to choose from. 

Not only are you stressed and busy with what you have in life, but then when you go to solve it you hit the obstacle of “I can't even choose what the solution might be.” 

The Solution

I have a simple solution I will give you today. You can go check it out and use it to help you know where to focus your time, energy, and money so you can be a leader who feels a bit more balanced. 

Those top 6% of women, they're clear on what they prioritize so they can actually invest their time, energy, and money on the things that really matter to them, and are going to give them the best ROI (Return on Investment). 

The problem is if you aren't clear on exactly what your priorities are, then you'll be swayed by shiny objects. You'll be swayed by all of the different offerings put out by different companies. It will leave you feeling stuck in indecision.

Sometimes you feel like the duck on the water where you look all calm, but really you’re paddling a lot under the surface. You're working so hard. Or maybe you’re a hamster on a wheel going over and over and over and over again.

You're trying to be better for yourself, for your family, and for those around you while also trying to be productive. But you could be like a spinning top, right? You just feel like, “Oh, I'm looking at everything, and I'm doing everything.” 

I put together this tool by using many different pieces of research. I took what I found in coaching my clients over the past decade. I've done surveys with a lot of successful leaders. I also did some really deep reflection of what had me be balanced before kids, and what had me be balanced after kids. Then with the pandemic, and the extra stress of it all, how we can be balanced now. 

What I did was I took all of this information on how and where you focus, and I made the balanced leader cheat sheet. 

The Balanced Leader Cheat Sheet

What is this cheat sheet? It's a really simple and easy way to see how to be balanced. With this tool you just check off the boxes when it applies to you and you’ll love how it helps you to identify your specific priorities and areas where you will get the biggest ROI. 

Rather than focusing on all 21 areas that are on this cheat sheet, or focusing on everything that everyone else says you need to be doing, you can get a really specific, clear picture of what you need to focus on. Specific to you in who you are right now, at this time in your life with the responsibilities that you have. 

I encourage you that when you do grab it, you also pay attention very strongly to the “Thank you” page because we will have a chance to do it together. 

You can totally do it yourself; however, Les Brown says, “When you're in the frame, you can't see the picture”. So it’s better to go through it with me by doing the Balance Leader Blueprint Session. This is where we actually will go through the cheat sheet together so I can help you to understand the 21 areas that are on this cheat sheet. Then you can easily pick the top three or four that are important to you, that would be really good for you to do, that would be your next clear step so that you know where to focus. 

These 21 items are what top leaders are focusing on and of those 21 you're going to receive a one-page blueprint, when we go through this session together, you're going to be able to know what it is that you need to focus on 1st, 2nd and 3rd. ​

Grab the cheat sheet and share it with a friend, especially if you see that they're a leader, or you see they need to be more balanced. It is such a gift to give them just forward the link and say, “Hey, check this out” or “Go do use this tool.” 

Those who have gone through this cheat sheet have been so relieved to be able to know “Just these 3 things are the ones I need to focus on now.” It takes away the pressure of all the other things that are weighing on you. 

So if you want to get off the hamster wheel, stop being a spinning top, know exactly where to focus your energy, so you can have the best return and be a more balanced leader then I encourage you to get the balance leader cheat sheet. 

Read my other blogs:​

1. 3 Solutions to Stop Spreading Yourself Too Thin
2. 4 Steps to Stop Judging Yourself
3. Your Travel Bucket List!